I’m writing this blog about how I’ve realized how much lying and dishonesty there is out in the world of romantic relationships and how internet sites like Facebook or Myspace are the perfect mirror reflection for where you are at with yourself and your relationship honesty.

Through my own experience with dating and being on social sites such as these we are constantly challenged to be honest with the people we may be dating or in relationship with and I’m realizing how many people just aren’t doing it. Why is it so hard to just be honest? You can’t post certain photos because someone might actually question you! Well if you have nothing to hide then what does it matter anyway! Through my own experiences on both of these social sites I have always maintained a high level of integrity with posting everything that is important and fun to me. I have been questioned about certain photos with certain girls or whatever and because I have been honest with whomever I may be dating or my girlfriend at the time I have nothing to hide. I’m just so surprised how many people don’t have the courage to just be fricking honest in the world. When you stand in your truth and even then get questioned, I know it can be very challenging. But, if you are telling the truth then you have nothing to hide in the first place! What else have you got but your real truth?

I’m pointing to something much bigger obviously than just Facebook or Myspace honesty. I’m pointing to how sad it makes me to see how many people don’t have the true guts to just be themselves and to be honest about where they are in their lives while dating. Let’s all stop the bullshit and get real for a minute and call ourselves out! If you’re dating more than one person then say so! If you are committed to one person and you are really being truthful then don’t be afraid to post those pics of you with other attractive people! It always comes down to the same thing, the EGO! It’s time to bring awareness to all of this and begin a conversation of honesty and healing. What do you think?

Being really truthful may be challenging at first but it gets easier and the more you practice the better you get at it. The most challenging part is making sure you can tell yourself the truth first! That is the most important part in this whole equation. Are you being honest with you? Find some clarity based in Love not ego!

Once you do that then it won’t matter what anyone else thinks… and you will feel free!

Brad The Love Coach